Eggs in a Basket

So, I am once again guilty of putting my eggs in a dude's basket too early. I met a guy, he seems nice, we get along great, he's a good kisser, he says he's on my page, he looks like Mr. Perfect on paper, yada yada yada.

Sounds great, right?

Not great. Because as soon as I start putting him in these terms, I'm fitting him for his wedding tux, at least subconsciously. I'm deciding whether this one is THE ONE, and I am repeatedly given a slap in the face by reality for my efforts.

You might wonder, "How can this be? Isn't it normal to wonder whether a guy you like could have staying power in your life?"

The answer is yes, it's normal. But don't go overboard. Don't stop meeting up with your "friends with benefits" thinking this guy is moments away from possibly considering that maybe he might one day casually describe you as his girlfriend. Sure, I'd love to meet a guy that knew more than just my anatomy, and that actually cared about me, but don't you feel like a schmuck when you cancel on your "friends with benefits" only to find out that the new guy in your life that you're hoping will want to give you a title is going to "try" to come to your first solo gig?

Yes. You do.

Try? TRY?! How 'bout don't bother? As much as I want every gig I do to be filled with bodies, I don't want it to be because I had to BEG or CONVINCE anyone to come. I want it to be because they're a genuine fan, they're curious, they enjoy jazz, or any number of other legitimate reasons. Not because I badgered them and they caved.

So the moral of that story is, don't put all your eggs in one basket until you're sure, and even if you feel sure after a few weeks, really, you SHOULDN'T feel sure until a few MONTHS has passed. Because that gives you enough time to realize whether or not you've gotten the completely wrong idea from him.

ON ANOTHER NOTE....

My first solo gig is tonight! YEA!!!!!! I'm not so much nervous about my own performance as I am nervous about it all coming together. These are new musicians, people I don't know that don't know me. They are amazing and I'm sure they'll do a great job, but given the breakneck pace of putting this gig together, this is a bit of an exercise of faith. But I'm going to have faith, and it's going to be GREAT!

Details:
Kat Webb@The National Underground
159 East Houston Street
Doors open @8:30pm, Show@9pm
Tickets are $11 at the door
30-40min set of jazz and old school R&B

Be there or be square.

Kat.

P.S. Meow.

Gigmaven

Revamp!

Hi All,

New things are happening!

1.) I waiver between three and five pounds of my goal weight! It's so awesome to have finally achieved that! I know it's not the end of the journey by any means, and pretty much plan to be a Weight Watchers Lifetime member to maintain my healthy weight and lifestyle. It's so easy to backslide into bad habits.

2.) I've finished my debut album, "An Old Soul"!!! I paid for the royalties of the hard copies that will arrive in a few weeks, have a fantastic CD design, have a gig this Friday, 4/8 in NYC (my first as a solo artist; details at my Facebook fanpage: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Kat-Webb/115704781820865), digital distribution could begin in as little as a week, and I'll be signing with a producer for an eight-week campaign (to start) in a couple weeks! How can I NOT be excited.

3.) I plan to revamp this site a bit. With the weight loss goal conquered, I plan to devote it a lot more to my budding music career. That isn't to say that I won't include some personal musings from time to time, but hopefully they'll be related to my music and my career, much more that just using this blog as a public diary (that no one reads, LOL).

And on that note, some personal musings!:

No real improvement on the guy front.

Well, that's not entirely true. I've been on a few awesome dates and some of my regular "friends" have settled into a nice routine with me. Even "Mr. Trini" is back. No apology from him, but hey, that's who he is. Now that I no longer have feelings for him, I don't need one.

There IS a dude who has some promise. He's really nice, an Ivy-Leaguer like me, and incredibly fashionable. We seem to click. I don't want to rush things, and I don't want to get too excited if nothing comes of it, but I'm excited as I CAN be at such an early stage. I take his appearance as a sign that, if they aren't already, things in my romantic life could be looking up very soon. I REALLY appreciate that, as I was beginning to worry I was either going to get fame or love but not both. To be honest, I was starting to think fame would have to be enough. That's a TERRIBLE thing for an artist to have to come to terms with, LOL.

Anyway, as usual, I'll keep readers posted on that front too. Again, in less detail, but I'll let you know if there are any big things happening. :)

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